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The struggle with the critical voice in my head

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There is a voice in my head that sounds like me, but it is not me. Her name is Miss Critic and she is a clever one.

She doesn’t say, “you’re worthless. You’re stupid. You’re ugly. You can’t get anything right.” No, she’s more subtle than that. Stealthy in fact. She whispers to me bittersweet nothings, most of the time so quietly that I’m barely aware she’s even talking. When she does talk, she speaks to me in “buts.”

She says, “you’re looking good Alison, but you could lose a couple of kilos.”
She says, “you’re intelligent, but no one…


Stop living a future that hasn’t happened yet.

How to use that thing between my ears better.

“The future is just a construct that lives between your ears that you create with language.” —

This is one of those sentences that seems like it’s blatantly obvious. Of course, none of us have crystal balls that we can look into and see what will happen in the future! So we have to make guesses as to what will happen and we guess using words.

But when you think about it, when you really think about it, the implications of this are mind-blowing.

Until we actually live the future (which by the way will instantly become the…


How to get your mojo back in three easy steps.

We’ve all been there, when all you want to do is bury your head in the rug pile and hope that you can do better tomorrow | Photo by from

Overcoming extreme resistance

First things first, it is a barefaced LIE that you need motivation in order to do anything.

You don’t!

It’s much easier to do something when you actually want to do it, but the truth is that if you want to master a skill, whether that is weight loss, playing guitar or entrepreneurship, then you need to do stuff even when you don’t feel like doing it.

In fact, especially when you don’t feel like doing it.

#discipline

I know, I wish it was easier!

Sometimes you get into a situation where you recognise you have no motivation and that…


Your guide to breaking down and rebuilding unhelpful subconscious beliefs

Rodin’s Thinker — Winning at life, by thinking

“Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny.” — Mahatma Gandhi

I chose to study Psychology for my undergraduate degree because I wanted to know, why do people do what they do, and why is it that I can I never do what I actually want to do?!

I quickly learned that if I was looking for a quick fix, or a “proven” method to change my behaviour, then I would be disappointed. …


Is the “normal” way of doing business the right way?

Can you guess the Superhero yet?

As a new business owner and solopreneur, I am embarking on a fantastic adventure. I want to do everything I can in order to solve my customers’ problems, I want to delight them and make it right if they are unhappy.

I have been learning value creation, marketing, sales and systems from business gurus like Seth Godin, Gary Vaynerchuck, Zig Ziglar, Ramit Sethi, Iron Fist, Josh Kauffman and Marie Forleo.

I’ve got a mission, a platform, a product and…wait a second, did I just say Iron Fist from the Netflix Marvel Superhero series?

Yes, I did.

Iron Fist (whose special…


When valuing your time can become harmful

Let’s face it, there just isn’t enough time in the day.

We have 8 hours for sleeping, 8 hours for working and 8 hours left for everything else.

We are continually striving to maximise our time and results at work and at home. It’s a philosophy that permeates our lives, “how can I do more in less time?

In fact, I’d even go as far as to say that productivity is a new religion.

And boy oh boy, am I a preacher.

After some soul searching in Amsterdam (interpret that however, you will, but just know it is probably legal…


Use affirmations to re-program the faulty wiring in your brain

> I will not fall off. I will not fall off. I will not fall off… <

Whenever I have to perform in front of other people, I get really nervous. My mind starts to run away with me…

“What if I make a mistake?”
“What if I look stupid?”
“What if I fail and everyone laughs at me?”
“What if I actually hurt myself or other people” — that was a biggie on my driving test.

And my stomach…well, that makes me want to run to the toilet.

Unless I do something to counteract these feelings, it is fairly likely that I will end up sitting on the nearest bog, a sobbing, gibbering wreck.


Yeah I know it is hard to do, but the results are there waiting for you on the other side of that discomfort.

“You told me you wanted to cross this bridge, so help me God I will make sure you cross it” — Wise words from the accountabili-turtle, he’s always got your back

Most people don’t set goals.

Those who do set goals, tend to set them ineffectively.

Those who do set effective goals, tend not to write them down.

Those who do write them down, tend to record them in a diary or journal.

Those who write them in a diary or journal, tend to write them down once and never look at them again.

And those few people who do set effective goals, who write them down and review them frequently, still tend to NOT achieve their goal because they do not do the number one most important thing.

In order…


You have crafted the perfect SMART goal, … you’re pumped and fired up and ready to go. Now how the hell do you actually go about achieving it?

180 degrees — I am coming for you!

I have always wanted to do the splits. They are the ultimate flexibility goal and a pretty cool party trick. Well, when I say I wanted to, I mean I wanted to, but not enough to actually do anything about it. Like research how to do them, or stretch, or indeed practice in any way.

I suppose from my behaviour, you could argue I didn’t really want to at all. “I want to” are just words that I said but there was no meaning or intent behind them.

Everything changed about 9 months ago though where I hit a breakthrough…


To be a better human, you must not act like a human! This post comes with a warning, you may experience cute dog photo overload!

I have been a dog owner since August 2016 and my cockapoo Louis has changed my life. He has shown me that I can be a better human by being more like a dog. Here are six things that my pooch has absolutely nailed, but his human carer is still very much working on.

1. Dogs LOVE Exercise

Alison Untethered

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